Emotional Intelligence: Anxiety, Fear & Emotions

Introduction

But the truth is that that you can control your emotions. You can get really good at experiencing the ones that you want and avoid the ones that you don’t want.

The truth is that emotional self-control is possibly the most valuable skill that you could ever acquire. It helps you cope with whatever life throws at you. It helps you prevent stress, anxiety and fear. And it helps you unlock your abilities, frees you to live the life that you really want, and actually has been linked strongly to what differentiates between people who are successful versus people who are not.

No one ever told us that it was the lack of emotional management that ends up leading to drama, to suffering, to addiction, and to poor decisions, and that all of those things can be avoided.

We’ll focus on three of the most undesirable emotions uncertainty, insecurity, anxiety and worry and fear, and how you can use emotional awareness and self-control techniques to take back control of your emotions and feel better now. We will teach you what your emotions really mean? How to recognise them and how to direct them in a way that really allows you to move towards your life goals and really your desires and what you want to create. We’ll teach you how to get out of your head and become the observer of your emotions as they happen so you can avoid being hijacked by your own brain and really feel control again. So after learning these tools, you’ll be able to really feel good, or at least better. No matter what’s going on around you or what life throws at you. You stop your emotions from spiraling out of control. You’ll feel resilient and capable of handling life stressors. You stop raising thoughts and calm your anxiety, your de-escalate, overcome, or prevent your fears. You develop mindfulness by focusing on the present moment, and you also feel confident and in control of your emotional state and your life.

In this course, you will learn what emotions are and how they work, how to recognise them and identify them. How to direct your thoughts so that you can direct your emotions. How to reframe situations that make you feel bad. Find the blessing and then feel better. You’re going to learn stress reduction techniques, proven processes for preventing yourself from losing control. Emotionally, you learn tools to de-escalate. When you’re feeling anxiety or fear, you’ll learn NLP or neuro linguistic programming techniques for rewiring your emotions and anchoring positive ones. You’ll learn how to cope using humor and other self-empowerment techniques. You’ll develop self-confidence, uncertainty, and you’ll master the feelings of hopefulness and feeling joyful.

Mind Body Emotional Connection

And so that’s a really great illustration that all it takes is our imagination to make us feel something. And so what I’m here to tell you is that that is always happening to you. What you are thinking in your mind is causing your emotions. So it may be that the way you perceive things is you’re seeing things around you and you’re thinking about the things that you’re seeing and that’s causing an emotion. And so you blame the things that you’re seeing. But truly, the source of your emotion doesn’t come from those things around you. It comes from what’s going on up here (head).

And it shows you that it’s not just that your emotions respond to your thoughts, but your whole body does, too.

So I hope that that gives you an illustration of how powerful your mind truly is in creating reactions, both in your emotions and in your body.

Joeel’s Journey

Because understanding my emotions and being able to manage them and changing my state has really transformed my life. And in many ways it has saved my lives.

You see, the emotional journey started when I was young because I moved around a lot. I used to move around like every year, sometimes twice a year. I went to so many different schools. But what it taught me was how to look at things as opportunities. How to be able to shift my emotion. How to be able to make friends quickly, how to be able to be an observant of my environment and learn from that environment.

And those tools helped me sleep better, helped me go from failing school to getting straight A’s and going for my Bachelor’s, Master’s, and so on. Because it helped me be in a better state, helped me how I reacted to situations, how I reacted to stress and things like that. It helped me get grounded of the possibilities that I had in life and that had control of that, that I can control not only what was happening internally, but that even if I couldn’t control what was happening externally, I still could choose how I felt and how I reacted.

But what I did was that I saw it as a year sabbatical, a year to understand my emotions, a year to understand the root cause of some of the things in my life and make necessary changes. So I knew that when I came out of that, I was gonna be a better person, not only for myself but those people around me

Knowing that if that was the last thing that I did, I was gonna enjoy that moment with her. So the point was that I was choosing my emotions regardless of how extreme my situation was. And was it always easy? No. Was it times that I felt anxious, depressed? I felt fear, yes. But I didn’t try to stay there.

So just remember that your emotions impact every aspect of your life. Scientifically, Whether it’s your health, whether it’s your relationships, your career, your mind is the tool. And you have to either see it as either directing your life, or you directing it. So are you gonna take the the the wheel and say, “Okay these are my emotions, this is what, and I’m gonna drive ’em to create what I want. or I’m gonna let my emotions take over, and decide what kind of life I live and what kind of experience I have regardless of my external situation.”

The tools to develop the awareness, give you the tools to change your life, to choose your emotions, and create your reality as it did mine throughout my journey and throughout my life. And again, these tools transform my life. And when I was real sick, I believe that these tools was what’s helped me heal and get to the point where I’m at today.

Natalie Journey

And I observed that when people change the way they thought, their emotions would change. And I found me changing the way that I thought and my emotions were changing. And so I reached a breaking point, and I decided it was time I had to transform my life. And literally, I transformed every aspect of my life at that point. And part of that process was I delved further into learning about the mind and emotions, and I ravenously devoured anything that would teach me about my own empowerment, teach me how to be in control of my life, and not to live the status quo, and not to give away my power. And so I learned to own my emotions instead of others.

And so, as I started to learn that I’m not my mind and that I can control it, I would start to catch myself doing that. And I just remember this distinct day that I almost got hit by another car. And I went down the path that I often do, of imagining what would happen, then that I realized I was doing it. And I stopped my movie, and brought my attention back to the present moment. And so that was one of those first moments where I felt empowered that I can control this.

And in that split second, I realized I don’t like this. And this isn’t even real. And in that moment, I just shut off the emotional feeling. It just stopped, because I fully realized I am in control.

And I have since been able to use that same strategy, if there’s something else going on in my life. And I know my mind is all wrapped up in it. And I realized my mind’s wrapped up when I say, hey, this isn’t real, it’s not even happening right now I’m just thinking about what happened at work, or I’m imagining what’s gonna happen later. I don’t have to feel this, and I’m not going to when I stop.

So I got pretty good at blocking the negative stuff, but I hadn’t quite gotten good at practicing the positive stuff.

And so I used a lot of tools, actually the ones in this course, to identify what I wanted, and what I saw my future as. And here’s the key here, that before when I would think about the future, and during this experience to think about the future, but all I could see is this thing I want this dream I have is not possible right now, this isn’t going to happen. I couldn’t see past my circumstances. And so by using the tools that I teach in this course, I was able to get to the place where I could look to the future, and remember who I am, and remember what I dream of, and what I really want to do with my life, and how I wanna feel, and actually go there now, and live the dream in my mind, feel the emotions, even though the thing that I want isn’t happening, and be able to do it without feeling bad that it’s not happening now. And that was life-changing. It was like that final tear of being able to feel fully in control of my emotional state. And so what I’ve learned through all of this, is that the ability to control your mental and emotional state is the true definition of self-empowerment and knowing that you have a choice is the true definition of freedom

Biological and Psychological Foundations

Our stress is constant. We’re in a perpetual state of fight or flight. Therefore, this prolonged stress can lead us to breaking down physically and mentally. You have to keep in mind that when you’re in that state, it’s almost like if your body’s exercising but exercising all the time. So imagine if you were exercising all the time. What would that do to your mind and your body if you actually never give it time to rest?

One of the strongest indicators is our connection between the left prefrontal cortex, which will call PFC and the amygdala. So the PFC is critical because it tells the amygdala that needs to quiet down by sending inhibitory signals so it helps our negative emotions subside and go away. It tells it you need to really stop because you need to stop feeling this way or is not rational or is not practical. So really quiet this down. Studies have shown that people who have a weaker connection between these two areas of the brain have more difficulties managing and regulating their emotions. So now you may be thinking, what is that area of my brain is not well developed. Am I out of luck? The good news is that you’re not and that you can help build those connection. It is important to keep in mind that the brain is like a muscle and that by working those areas, you can strengthen your connections.

One of the ways that you can work out that sections through mindfulness meditation, you do this by becoming an observer of your thoughts without judging them. You’re looking at it and saying, OK, that’s what you’re thinking. That’s what. Processing and and so on and so on, but by doing this, you’re observing how the brain can easily exaggerate a situation and go at unnecessary tangents. And by doing this, you’re activating your PFC, which is a critical part of your brain to manage your emotions. So in other words, you’re training it. You’re building that muscle up in your brain to let it know it’s time to turn on reasoning and critical thinking. Activate. It’s almost like turning on a light switch.

So what does help is the first thing is planning and using your imagination to see what you want to create in the future and practicing self-control. Therefore, you can plan some of the activities. You can even plan some of your rewards that you’re going to get once you achieve certain goals and things like that. I’ll give you an example. If you have a habit of constantly checking your phone, you can force yourself not to check it until you reach a goal or finish some work that you’re supposed to be doing instead. And by doing this again, you’re building that muscle. So by practicing self-restraint, you’re actually building that emotional part of yourself that will help you not only short term, but actually long term. When you’re faced with adversities, when you’re faced with stress, when you’re faced with challenges, because it’s going to help light up that part of your brain that’s going to tell your brain, OK, need to slow down before you react. You need to slow down before you actually take the next step. And let’s process this. Just keep in mind that with everything, it takes practice and consistency. So in this course, we will provide you the tools that if you practice them consistently, it will help you create the life in a better way. It will help you reach for your goals and dreams, and more importantly, it will help you stay in a better emotional state.

MOVE. MOVE. Don’t Get Stuck.